How to do a Life Check-in

self mastery

How do you successfully check in on yourself, your relationships, and your career?

We all navigate our daily lives differently.

Whether figuring out our next steps career wise, the uncertainty of a new relationship, wondering what we want to be when we grow up, deciding where we want to live, buy, rent, or in my case… jumping between Bali and the UK and wondering if there is a magic cure for jet lag!

We all have challenges that we face in our daily life, so it's helpful sometimes to take a step back and evaluate how we're doing in the different areas of our lives.

How happy are we?

What’s working? What isn’t?

Checking in on ourselves, our relationships, and our careers can help us decide what areas of our lives need a little more TLC.

So many of us don’t take the time to reflect on how things are going. And it’s SO important that we do.

This is where a life check in or an audit of how things are going can be life changing - literally!

You do yearly reviews at work. You have monthly check in with your boss to see how things are working that help you to realign on what’s going well and adjust the things that need some work or attention.

Why not do the same with your life?

Let’s look at three important areas of your life, use some prompts to take stock, questions to reflect on that will give you a little nudge in the right direction.

The 3 life areas are we are going to check in on are:

You
Your relationships
Your career

YOU

As someone who can get bogged down in the world of running a business and supporting others chasing after their goals, finding some ‘me time’, to check in on myself, where I’m at on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis it so important.

Here’s why.

It keeps me focussed and on track.
If things get wonky and start to not feel good,
I catch things quick enough to pivot and change them before they get to being a big problem.

A quick way I do this is by setting aside 5 mins each morning to reflect on my thoughts and emotions.

I check in and just ask myself things like "How am I feeling today?", "Is there anything I really need to get done?", What do I need to do today to feel good?" or “What’s not working and what can I do to change it?”.

Not only does this help to get me in the zone for client calls, or get into a workflow, it also helps me identify if I’m feeling a little out of sorts and whether there might be anything impacting my well-being for that particular day.

Sometimes that means, giving myself a bit more time in the morning, getting outside for a walk, a heavy lifting session, spending some time with people I love or getting a ‘difficult’ task done that’s going to make me feel like a rockstar.

Because of how ‘busy’ we can be, it's really important we fill our cups before we start trying to fill others.

Let’s set the scene.

Find something to write in, grab a pen, a cup of tea (or a glass of wine) and kick off your check-in process.

Daily prompts to get you started:

How am I feeling today?
- On a scale of 1-10, where am I? (1 - meh | 10 - outrageously amazing)
What can I do get that to a 9/10?
- On a scale of 1-10, how happy with my life? (1 - meh | 10 - outrageously amazing)
What’s going well? Why?
What’s not going so well? Why?
What do I need to focus on today?

Monthly prompts to dive deeper:

Am I satisfied with the progress I have made towards my goals in the last month?
Have I taken enough time for self-care, rest, and relaxation?
Have I been able to maintain a healthy work-life balance?
What new things have I learned or experienced this month?
What challenges have I faced this month, and how did I handle them?
Am I using my time and energy effectively, or am I wasting it on unimportant tasks?
What habits have I developed this month, and are they helping me or hindering me in life
Have I been practicing gratitude and appreciation for the good things in my life?
Am I feeling fulfilled and purposeful in my life, or is something missing?
Do I believe I’m living up to my potential?
What do I want to accomplish in the next year, five years, or ten years and is there anything I need to be doing now to help with that?

These questions can help keep you focussed and on track to make sure you’re heading in the direction you want.

Additionally, you can take time to evaluate your physical, emotional, and mental well-being by having the questions be specifically focussed on them.

Your Relationships

Relationships play a vital role in our lives. Connection is a huge part of our wellbeing and happiness, whether it be with family, friends, or romantic partners. Checking in on your relationships can help you identify relationships that leave you feeling less than energised or that that need work to improve and recognise the ones which are thriving and further nurture them.

It’s easy to let our relationships to become less of a priority as we get caught up in hustle mode, jumping from one task to another or juggling a busy life.

Prioritise the relationship you have with yourself is important and that’s why checking in with YOU is one of the areas you want to focus on, however, having incredible humans around you will elevate your life and provide you with the support and love you need to live a happy purposeful life.

So, let’s understand how to check in on your other relationships.

Daily prompts to get you started:

How am I making time to connect with people regularly?
Am I you spending enough time with the people who matter most to you?
Do I actively listen and engage in meaningful conversations with people?
Do I show appreciation and gratitude for the important people in my life? How?
Am I communicating in a respectful and clear way what I need? If not, why?
Do I respect other boundaries and needs? If not, what needs to change?
Have I been prioritising people in my life and showing them support?
Do I actively work through conflicts and misunderstandings in my relationships?
Are there any changes I need to make to improve my relationships?

Monthly prompts to dive deeper:

What have been some of the highlights of my relationship over the past month?
Are there any areas where you feel like you need to improve your communication?
Are there any unresolved issues or conflicts that need resolving?
What changes you'd like to make to our relationship or our dynamic?

Your Career

Checking in on my professional and business goals was crucial for my growth and development.

A fulfilling career is vital to our overall happiness and well-being, especially as we spend so many hours of our lives working to support our lifestyles outside of work.

Checking in on your career can help you determine whether you are on the right path and whether you need to make any changes.

Daily prompts to get you started:

Am I happy with my current job and career path?
What are my short-term and long-term career goals?
Am I making progress towards achieving my career goals?
Do I feel challenged and engaged in my work, or am I feeling bored and unfulfilled?
Am I utilising my strengths and skills in my current job?
Do I feel like my current job is aligned with my values and interests?
Am I getting paid fairly for the work that I do?
Am I learning new skills and developing professionally in my current job?
Is my work-life balance supporting my needs?
What steps do you need to take to achieve your career goals?
When was the last time you received feedback?
Is your career as important as it once was or have your priorities shifted?

Monthly prompts to dive deeper:

Are there any specific goals you want to achieve this month or in the near future?
How can you work towards achieving those goals?
Are there any areas of your job where you feel you need to improve or develop new skills?
How can you go about developing those skills?
Are you happy overall with your career? If not, what do you want to do about that?

Checking in with yourself, your relationships, and your career is an essential part of living a life that works for you.

By taking the time to reflect, you can identify areas that need improvement and make changes that leave you feeling happier and more fulfilled.

It's an ongoing process and requires consciously making the time and then the commitment to act upon it.

The quality of your life check ins will help you more consciously navigate life.

Let yourself live a life by design vs default!